The Potential Of Skinny Love And Letting Go
Because you deserve to, and have to, stand up for your heart.
There is a certain kind of grace in love. The grace that teaches you courage and teaches you warmth. A grace that shows you how to be more of you and at the same time recognize that had it not been for a certain kind of love, you could never have been the kind of you that you would like to be. Love teaches you how to be you.
A part of the freedom of being yourself is also to honour parts of yourself that give a little bit more and recieve just a little bit less. For you see, these are the parts that have the courage to be vulnerable, to be weaker and still go out, face the world, swallow pride…These are the parts that you need to take care of.
Love is the nutrient supply for the bits and pices and the strings of your heart. And courage is the seed that keeps its growing.
Be courageous.
Please just have the courage to let go of the people who leave your heart confused. Let go of the people who make you feel like you are compromising on all that you desire… And all that you hope for… And all the goodness and beauty that you know exists in this world… Compromising on it all for a skinny version of love.
Let go of falling in love with potential.
Let go of falling in love with the idea of someone rather than who they truly are. Let go of the fears you have that make you keep holding on to something that hurts, something that is heavy or out-of-sync with your being or unworthy or worse … Something that makes you feel like you are constantly at war with yourself.
Let go of waiting.
Let of waiting for the people that you have always treated kindly, to treat you with kindness in return. Let go of waiting for the people you have always treated with respect to treat you with the respect. Let go of waiting for the people you have always chosen to finally choose you back. Let go of the waiting. Let go of holding your breath, just hoping that things will change.
Let go.
Don’t allow yourself to get comfortable simply trying to exist in spaces when you know you deserve better. Whether that space be your city, your work, your home or the ones you reluctantly call your people, because at the end of the day, if they don’t hold space for you, they are just a situation that you found yourself in.
Don’t ever let yourself be convinced into believing and accepting that you have to make yourself smaller just fit in, just to exist. Don’t ever let yourself be talked into being dim, simmering down, slowing down, shrinking and cramming yourself into the an idea of a love that doesn’t come from your heart but from the conveniences of someone elses comfort-zone.
Love is not meant to hurt.
Love is not meant to be given in bare minimums. Love is not expendable. Love is not a commodity that you stock-pile in dark, dusty, forgotten corners of an insuffereable life. Love does not require for you to be coolor, or less emotional, or more direct, or less direct, or colder, or more diluted. Love certainly does not require you to be less of yourself for you to be worthy of it meeting you.
Love does not ask you be a a check-list and fulfill a criteria so that it can then present itself, reveal itself, bestow it’s rare graces upon you. No!
Love chooses you.
Love chooses you in the good and in the bad. It isn’t an “almost” thing. It doesn’t exist in maybe’s, or the what-ifs. It isn’t something you have to beg for. It isn’t something you have to fight for constantly, or fight against all the time. It isn’t something that is always a constant source of pain and confusion and hurt. There is a power in letting go of anything that is forcing you to let go of yourself. Don’t ignore what you know in your heart.
You will know it in and will always recognize the love that resonates with your heart, with your best self, with the highest vibrations of your being.
Remember…
It is better to be alone than to feel lonely in what you are settling for. It is better to be alone, than to try to fit your heart in the palms of someone who does not want to hold it. It is better to be alone, to be your own foundation, than to spend any more of your time waiting for someone to see the beauty in what you are giving them. You deserve good love. You deserve a solid love. You deserve a happy, joyful, light and effervescent love.
No matter who you think you are, you deserve a love that full to the brim with softness, joy and laughter. And you deserve to let go of anything that does not feel that way. You deserve to, and have to, stand up for your heart.
You deserve to let go so as to make space, because one day, when you least expect it, you are going to crash into someone who is going to be soft and gentle with your heart. Someone who is going to trace the ridges of your face with the lines of their palm. Someone who is going to let their breath sync in with the steady rhythm of your beating heart and you are going to be so glad that you kept it open. You are going to be glad that you continued to fight for it and that you chose to believe that you deserved better.
